And now (belatedly) for the last of The four temperaments. I’m still on the fence about how I’m going to use my blog, but to close said theme, I will have a look at my own temperament, the phlegmatic. More specifically…
…Phlegmatic-melancholic: quiet and thoughtful, these people tend to be introverts, but perhaps more people focused than the reverse blend. They are gentle and inoffensive and often hate conflict, due to the peaceful nature of the phlegmatic and the sensitive perfectionism of the melancholic. These two sides to their personality may sometimes conflict with each other. This can mean the difference between being slow to go through with a task and wanting to do it properly. Similarly, phleg-mels can have similar issues with expressing their opinions, as they may want to be heard yet not want to risk offending. It’s not that they don’t have emotions or opinions, its just that they can be slow to experience them and even slower to voice them.
Phleg-mels can be very easy-going about some things and surprisingly over-sensitive about others. If hurt by someone, they may be offended if the other person is wrong or have a crisis in confidence if the other person is right. They may feel uncomfortable with change, with their main motivation towards it being that it’s the right thing to do. For some, they may not be the most fun, exciting company to have, but they are usually kind and reliable, and are content to just listen to others when needed.
Phlegmatic-sanguine: the laid-back, friendly types that most people seem to have in their lives. Phleg-sans tend to be well liked because they are gentle and friendly without being too “in-your-face”. They are the sort of people who seem content with lots of friends or just a few. They can be quick to move on from people no longer in their lives, but also have no trouble welcoming them back. They might not necessarily strive for deep connections with others but are usually happy to be there for people who need them. They are good natured and calm, and fairly adaptable when it comes to people.
They are quieter than the sanguine dominant blends; people may come to them rather than the other way around. However, their combination of inoffensiveness and friendliness may mean that they are more approachable than the other phlegmatic blends. Phleg-sans can be sensitive and insecure, but may just shrug off -or hide – negative emotions, except in a serious crisis. They may struggle with productivity at times, being slow to get started then being easily distracted by anything more interesting. Though they can be quiet, they like social events, and aren’t prone to either hogging the spotlight or lurking in the background.
Phlegmatic-choleric: in fiction, this blend often fits the “Average Joe” type character who somehow always proves their worth when pushed into the spotlight. They are quiet and unassuming, and like to keep to themselves. They are also the most stubborn of the phlegmatic blends, but are very unlikely to blow up in anger. If they ever get angry, they’d be more likely to show it with sarcasm or cold silences than rage. They might be slow to back down in a confrontation, but rarely, if ever, start one. Phleg-chols tend to be fairly unemotional, and are slow and steady in their ways. If faced with undesired change, they may resist it, rather than go with it just to please, or try it before losing interest.
Despite this, phleg-chols can be effective leaders or workers when pushed, as they are steady and competent and aren’t easily worried. They might not like being pushed out of their comfort zone, but usually don’t struggle to deal with it when it happens. They may be level-headed, and are often a calming influence on others, whilst not getting impatient or too emotionally involved with people.
And now to figure out what to blog about next. While I am doing that, have a try at seeing which temperaments fit you or anyone you know. You learn something new every day, after all!